When speaking to my friend this week I realized something about guilt. Guilt is a feeling which immobilizes us. How much time do we spend thinking about things that we did wrong? I, for example, until a certain point in my life, always used to blame myself for the bad decisions I had made in the beginning of my marriage. And I ask, what was I doing to change my situation when this feeling of guilt used to come? Absolutely NOTHING! Instead of seeking to change my situation, I would lament about my sad past, which, as much as I lamented about it, I would not be able to change it. What was done was done. I couldn’t change it anymore. Do you know when I acted? When I realized the following:
Worse than regretting a year of bad decisions is regretting a year and a day of bad decisions! I had had enough and I revolted against my situation. I didn’t accept going through that situation one more day. Then everything changed.
What matters isn’t what you have done in the past years. What matters now is what you will do in the coming years. Do you want to know what to do with your sad past? Yes, bury it. Forget about the past and go in the strength you have, mighty warrior!